Category — Guests
At my Bat Mitzvah, my guests signed a photo poster of me. Some 17 years later, I still love to sit on the floor of my closet at my parents’ house, where the poster sits, and read what my guests wrote. The vast majority, of course, are just signatures or perfunctory statements such as “Congratulations!” or “You did great!” But that’s beside the point: I look back at those signatures and remember the people who were in might life at that time. Many of them won’t be at my wedding—some, like my grandparents, because they have died; others because we grew apart years ago.
Likewise, many of the people who attend our wedding won’t be around for the next simcha. So I wanted our wedding guests to sign something that we’d look at often, something that would remind us of all the people who were present at our wedding.
I didn’t want a traditional ivory guest book—or even one of the pretty blue or green one—that would probably end up collecting dust in a box after the wedding. I wanted something that would have a place in our home.
So I decided to borrow an idea used by two friends who recently married. They had guests sign the blank beginning and ending pages of a coffee table book. “Yearbook-style,” a friend described it. Inside the book were pictures of Chicago, the city where the couple met. Since my fiancé and I are both book collectors, this seemed like the perfect alternative to the classic guest book.
But what kind of coffee table book would we get? As with most wedding details, the decision wasn’t easy. There were plenty of attractive coffee table books at the bookstore, but none screamed us. So we considered some mutual interests:
- Basketball. It was a possibility, but only a few people at the wedding will know that we’re both big basketball fans.
- Food. My fiancé, after all, loves to cook gourmet meals, and I love to eat his cooking. But after giving it a little thought, we decided that it was a bad idea to have our guests sign a pretty cookbook. Inevitably, we’d use the book in the kitchen, and it would get dirty, potentially ruining some of the signatures.
- Books. Now here was an option for two avid readers. But a coffee table book about books? There aren’t actually all that many. After some serious searching on Amazon.com, though, I came across The Writer’s Brush—a coffee table book with paintings, sculptures, and drawings by famous authors.
Our guest book
Without looking at more than a couple of pages, I knew we’d found our guest book. It was unique, and it happened to appeal to a shared interest we hadn’t considered: art. It also had the potential to be a conversation piece for years to come. Best of all, it would—will—give our guests’ signatures and well wishes a permanent place in our home and our lives, with a little decorative flair to boot.
October 8, 2009 No Comments
Question: Can you wear black to to a Jewish wedding?
Answer: This is a question frequently asked by guests who have never attended a Jewish wedding. The answer is a resounding “Yes!” While it may be perceived to be bad luck to wear black to weddings in some cultures, this is not the case with Jewish weddings. While there is no specific dress code for Jewish weddings, be sure to dress more modestly if you are attending an Orthodox Jewish wedding–meaning avoid wearing a low cut necklines and mini skirts. It is preferable that you wear attire with longer sleeves and hems to an Orthodox Jewish wedding.
June 9, 2009 1 Comment