Should I Be Stressed?
*Warning: This may be a rant of sorts!*
So, everyone and their mother, brother, sister, and whoever has been asking me “Are you so stressed out with wedding planning?”
My answer: “No, should I be?”
My fiance and I got engaged July 11, 2008. We set our date for November 28, 2009. That left us with a mere oh, 505 days to plan.
I decided very early on that I didn’t want my bridesmaids to be matchy-matchy clones of one another, because they’re different people and should (I think) dress differently! There went the stress of finding matching dresses, which from what I’ve heard, can cause major issues sometimes!
We booked our venue in early October, 13 months before our wedding date, and the venue supplies:
- Ceremony room
- Bridal suite
- Champagne toast
- cocktails (top shelf!)
- appetizers
- dinner
- wedding cake
- dance floor
- transportation to and from the hotel block
Honestly, we didn’t need much else! We used friends’ references for our florist, photographer, and DJ, and booked those by early November, 2008. A friend at work is designing and making our invitations, and the only thing left we really need now is a ketubah and Rabbi, and that meeting is today!
Save-The-Dates were made and addressed and sat there for almost 2 months before we mailed them! Am I overdoing the planning far too ahead of time? Maybe. Is it keeping me sane? Absolutely. Am I tired of people asking me about how stressed out I am? DEFINITELY!
*Rant over*
My point? Wedding planning does NOT have to be super stressful!!
5 comments
You’ve given me hope that someday, G-d willing, when I get engaged, it won’t be hell on wheels :)
I love you blog here.
that is all.
Im not qualified to give any wedding advice given my lack of planning (decided the day before after 3 yrs of mulling) and venue.
I AGREE! We planned our wedding in about six months with no real craziness. The week before I was sick of my wedding but it wasn’t that bad. Way to keep it in perspective Mara!
Oh Mara…you just need to hire Chris to plan your wedding! He planned ours, since I was working 50 hours a week. He did pretty well…for a boy…
Nah. I’m not even stressed. I just got engaged a few weeks ago, right before Shavuos and my wedding is going to be, G-d willing, the week before Rosh Hashanah. In three months. (Of course to me that seems like an insanely long engagement, but I guess the rest of the world does not see it that way. I was calling around for venues for September and the event planner at one of the places said to me, “You mean September of 2010, right?” Not exactly…)
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