The Wedding Gown That Made History

Posted by The Mrs.

Being that today is Yom Hashoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day), I wanted to share this extraordinary story with you. Like many women, Lilly Friedman always dreamt of her wedding day.   She also dreamt of getting married in a white dress. While this seems like a reasonable request to many of us, it was one that seemed like an impossibility for this particular Holocaust survivor.    


Lilly Friedman doesn’t remember the last name of the woman who designed and sewed the wedding gown she wore when she walked down the aisle over 60 years ago.  But the grandmother of seven does recall that when she first told her fiancé Ludwig that she had always dreamed of being married in a white gown he realized he had his work cut out for him.

For the tall, lanky 21-year-old who had survived hunger, disease and torture this was a different kind of challenge.  How was he ever going to find such a dress in the Bergen Belsen Displaced Person’s camp where they felt grateful for the clothes on their backs?

Fate would intervene in the guise of a former German pilot who walked into the food distribution center where Ludwig worked, eager to make a trade for his worthless parachute.  In exchange for two pounds of coffee beans and a couple of packs of cigarettes Lilly would have her wedding gown.

For two weeks Miriam the seamstress worked under the curious eyes of her fellow DPs, carefully fashioning the six parachute panels into a simple, long sleeved gown with a rolled collar and a fitted waist that tied in the back with a bow. When the dress was completed she sewed the leftover material into a matching shirt for the groom.

A white wedding gown may have seemed like a frivolous request in the surreal environment of the camps, but for Lilly the dress symbolized the innocent, normal life she and her family had once led before the world descended into madness.  Lilly and her siblings were raised in a Torah observant home in the small town of Zarica, Czechoslovakia where her father was a melamed, respected and well liked by the young yeshiva students he taught in nearby Irsheva.

He and his two sons were marked for extermination immediately upon arriving at Auschwitz.  For Lilly and her sisters it was only their first stop on their long journey of persecution, which included Plashof, Neustadt, Gross Rosen and finally Bergen Belsen.

Four hundred people marched 15 miles in the snow to the town of Celle on January 27, 1946 to attend Lilly and Ludwig’s wedding.  The town synagogue, damaged and desecrated, had been lovingly renovated by the DPs with the meager materials available to them.  When a Sefer Torah arrived from England they converted an old kitchen cabinet into a makeshift Aron Kodesh.”My sisters and I lost everything – our parents, our two brothers, our homes. The most important thing was to build a new home.”  Six months later, Lilly’s sister Ilona wore the dress when she married Max Traeger.  After that came Cousin Rosie.  How many brides wore Lilly’s dress? “I stopped counting after 17.” With the camps experiencing the highest marriage rate in the world, Lilly’s gown was in great demand.

In 1948 when President Harry Truman finally permitted the 100,000 Jews who had been languishing in DP camps since the end of the war to emigrate, the gown accompanied Lilly across the ocean to America.  Unable to part with her dress, it lay at the bottom of her bedroom closet for the next 50 years, “not even good enough for a garage sale. I was happy when it found such a good home.”

Home was the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. When Lily’s niece, a volunteer, told museum officials about her aunt’s dress, they immediately recognized its historical significance and displayed the gown in a specially designed showcase, guaranteed to preserve it for 500 years.

But Lilly Friedman’s dress had one more journey to make. Bergen Belsen, the museum, opened its doors on October 28, 2007.  The German government invited Lilly and her sisters to be their guests for the grand opening. They initially declined, but finally traveled to Hanover the following year with their children, their grandchildren and extended families to view the extraordinary exhibit created for the wedding dress made from a parachute.

Lilly’s family, who were all familiar with the stories about the wedding in Celle, were eager to visit the synagogue.  They found the building had been completely renovated and modernized.  But when they pulled aside the handsome curtain they were astounded to find that the Aron Kodesh, made from a kitchen cabinet, had remained untouched as a testament to the profound faith of the survivors.  As Lilly stood on the bimah once again she beckoned to her granddaughter, Jackie, to stand beside her where she was once a kallah.  “It was an emotional trip.  We cried a lot.”

Two weeks later, the woman who had once stood trembling before the selective eyes of the infamous Dr. Josef Mengele returned home and witnessed the marriage of her granddaughter.

The three Lax sisters – Lilly, Ilona and Eva, who together survived Auschwitz, a forced labor camp, a death march and Bergen Belsen – have remained close and today live within walking distance of each other in Brooklyn.  As mere teenagers, they managed to outwit and outlive a monstrous killing machine, then went on to marry, have children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren and were ultimately honored by the country that had earmarked them for extinction.

As young brides, they had stood underneath the chuppah and recited the blessings that their ancestors had been saying for thousands of years.  In doing so, they chose to honor the legacy of those who had perished by choosing life.

Helen Zegerman Schwimmer is the author of Like The Stars of The Heavens.

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1 Parsing Nonsense { 04.21.09 at 1:55 pm }

Wow, this story gives me goosebumps. When I visited Yad Veshem in Israel it was incredible to walk through the halls and look at the heirlooms and artifacts. It’s really humbling to take in the way these people persevered and kept their faith in the face of inconceivable persecution.

2 biddy { 06.25.09 at 7:20 pm }

What an amazing, humbling story.

3 Tammie Burditt { 04.28.10 at 5:42 pm }

This is a wonderful story. Just thinking about all the wedding’s now and how much money is spent, and the marriages don’t last. And this wonderful wedding dress made with love given to her by her husband to be, that is what marriage and love is about.

4 Cindy { 09.01.10 at 11:34 pm }

For Ludwig to meet up with that pilot was bashert (meant to be). It says so much that so many women were able to share in the “frivolous” dress. What an amazing story all around! Thanks for sharing it.

5 p.bosman { 10.29.10 at 5:09 pm }

this story touched me heart so much that I was crying as I read it. I remember our years in Germany in the early 60’s where my husband , who was a Colonel in American Air Force, lived for 5 yrs. and had visted the death camps and it broke my heart to see what had happened. lOVE DOES CONQUER EVEN THE HORROR OF THOSE CAMPS. A wonderful moving story for generations to come in that family and others. May we all learn lessons about faith, honor and love in this story.

6 richard ilnicki { 10.31.10 at 5:09 pm }

What a wonderful story of perseverance and love. The dress outlived the garments of the Israelites; their clothes lasted only 40 years by comparison while they wondered aimlessly in the wilderness.

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9 Yisrael Lutnick { 01.19.11 at 3:10 pm }

I was recently Cantor in Baltimore, and the Rabbi’s wife told us that her mother had been married in a DP camp, wearing a parachute dress. Very moving and inspiring! We cling to live and love.

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